Monday, November 15, 2010

What if You could do Anything???.....

What If You Could Do Anything?

questionHere’s an interesting question: What would you choose to do for a living if you could pick anything at all? What would you do if no one knew anything about your past work history or credentials, except you?
What would you do if you could do anything?
This is a question that Gwynn posed to me last week and even now it has me thinking.
It’s difficult to answer this question when you don’t have one specific passion or that one concrete calling in life. I told him that if I could do anything at all I would love to help people declutter and organize their home, work or holiday space.
I love simplifying, decluttering and organizing, almost to the point of obsession, and I love helping people feel better by getting their lives in order.
But is that it? Is THAT what I would do?
The more I thought about it the more things popped into my head as to what I would do.
  • organize fundraisers for charity
  • become a chef
  • photography
  • write
  • run a bed and breakfast
  • run a couples resort in cottage country (this was Gwynn’s suggestion … but I liked it too)
So why choose one? Why even ponder this question at all? It’s not like this is ever going to happen anyway. I’m not going to just drop everything and start up a photography business or buy a couples resort. Truth is I don’t have the skills, know how or money to do either at the moment. But wait. Aren’t these just excuses?
The point of pondering this question is not to figure out what you should be doing right now or to live in la-la land but rather to gain some insight into what you would really rather be doing if there were no restraints at all.
Use this exercise to shift your path in a direction that may ultimately lead you to such a career, hobby or enjoyment of life. You can only jump at an opportunity if you know that it’s in fact an opportunity.

Warning!

If you play out any of these scenarios all the way to the end, be sure to spend a bit of time thinking about the other side of the coin as well. Sure running a couples resort would be awesome. People checking in for a quiet romantic weekend, they’re likely to be happy and rather quiet. There would be plenty of time for me and Gwynn to just putter, soak in the sun and meet new people.
But what about when people trash a cottage, break a propeller blade on the boat motor, or shout profanities at you when the phone lines are down and they can’t get on the Internet? Having to deal with last minute cancellations, people showing up with a pet or their kids. Would this still  be something I would do if I could do anything?
As it so happens for this example, yes. I love a good challenge when it comes to customer service. It provides a great opportunity to put this personal development stuff into practice :) On the other hand, if I was scared of confrontation or didn’t want to deal with maintenance issues etc … then heading all the way down this path in my head would save me a lot of heart ache and time.
So I pose the question to you. What would you do if there were no limits and you could do anything?

Friday, November 12, 2010

Ten Ways to be Happy

Ten Ways to be Happy

10. Get lots of sleep. There's no better way to start the day than waking up totally rejuvinated.


9. Don't stress too much over your job. Whatever happens, it's just a job.


8. Stay away from unhappy, super-emo people who refuse to be helped.


7. Never let anyone force you into doing anything that you don't want to do.


6. Shop. Buying stuff for yourself is good.


5. Eat. Screw diets (unless, of course, they are needed for health or medical reasons).


4. Always take time to do something laid back from time to time, like hanging out or strolling in a park.


3. Spend time with your good friends.


2. Spend time with your family.


1. Don't ask yourself if you're happy. You are perfectly happy as long as you don't as yourself if you are.

Some More Tips

1) Always smile even when youre sad.


2) Get rid of negative thoughts.


3) Think positive at all times.


4) Be grateful for what you have.


5) Go for a walk/other forms of exercise.


6) Talk to a good trusted friend.


7) Have a long bath with candles.


8) Listen to some good music


9) Keep yourself occupied/busy.


10) Lastly be happy with yourself. There is only ONE YOU in the entire world.

My Philosophy On Life

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My Philosophy On Life

I’m no genius but…
This is what I think is the answer to the ultimate question of “why and how did we get here”? Is there a God? What happens to us when we die?
As we all know, there are many different beliefs and supposed explanations. I’m no religious scholar, nor am I a scientist. But I am a mom with kids that ask questions.
I do believe in God. But then that would discredit all the scientific explanations of how the earth began. Well, I like so many pondered these questions and quite frankly it drove me crazy until I finally found a way to make sense of it all in my own little brain.
And here it is. When my kids have had so many questions, as kids always do, about what happens when we die I tell them this…

Life is a day, when we die its tomorrow.
We wake up with no memory of our past.
The only clue is to look up to the heavens, for there in lies our next journey.
Three little sentences that finally put my mind at ease. I then go on to explain that these three sentences are what God would be saying if trying to explain it simply to us.

Life is a day.
Think about it. God is the Alpha and Omega. Always here and always will be here. How do you wrap your head around that one? You cannot. Anyone who believes knows it is not for us to understand, but to believe. Believing something you do not understand is called faith. So, with that being said, put yourself in God’s shoes. If you were always here and always going to be here, what would the word life mean to you? Our lives in God’s terms of time might only be a nano second. This would explain as well why it has been so long since his last physical visit to earth. For someone who has always been here and who will always be here 2,009 years might only be a few hours or days.  I’m sure that if you have always been here and will always be here you will be finding ways to keep yourself busy.

When we die its tomorrow.
Our whole life is but a day in God’s terms of time.

We wake up with no memory of our past.
This sentence to me explains so much. I believe that we do wake up again. You hear too many people talk about near death experiences not to believe that. And my own father claimed to have died at the beach as a boy and to have been “hovering” over his body and watching the people trying to save his life. This tells me without a doubt that we do have spirits that live on after our bodies die. It also explains why we never hear again from the dead. How painful would it be to someone who passes away to know the pain and grief their loved ones still living on earth are feeling and not be able to communicate with them? And how would you ever be able to go on knowing what you left behind?

The only clue is to look up to the heavens, for there in lies our next journey.
This is where the scientific part comes in. Quite simply, our sun is a star. Have you looked up at the sky on a clear night and seen how many stars are up there? And when you see them all how can you not believe that there must be other situations like ours? Some people believe you die and you either go to heaven or hell. I think God said that to comfort us and not worry us. He speaks of things in the bible in terms that we can relate to and understand in our own surroundings. Like a kind of need to know basis. Again, if you were always here and always going to be here you would want to keep yourself busy. Would earth and humans really be the only things you ever created?
I always hold on to the verse of the bible that says “My house has many mansions”. For me, this might mean that we go on to one of the many other places God has created. I believe there are other places of life other than earth and that maybe this will be our next journey. This would explain why we have not been able to find or prove other life exists in the universe. We are not supposed to find it now. It may well be the next place we’re going to. I believe that our time here on earth is but a stepping stone to heaven and that we are at the beginning of our journey as we are primitive beings with so much to learn and discover. Our time on earth is but one of many classrooms and we have so much more to learn.
I believe we have been given glimpses of proof. Everyone who says they’ve had some sort of alien sighting or experience can’t be crazy, can they? I believe that what we think are aliens are really just another of God’s creations and they are at the other end of the spectrum. And I have to believe I’m not the only one that thinks this way. A lot of movies have been made about aliens and they have been portrayed to be beings of higher intelligence, awareness and have capabilities to communicate telepathically and to heal without tools. They may be closer to being a complete and true spirit and closer to heaven.
For me, as far as the theory of evolution goes I cannot buy into it because quite simply anything that evolves is no more. How can we have evolved from apes if apes are still here?
All you have to do to believe any of this is think to yourself, what would I be doing if I was God? How powerful is it to be able to think or speak something and it is? And what would you do with that power? Would you want to be all alone, forever? I don’t think so. You would share the gift of life and all the experiences and lessons it has to offer in the hope that every being would become the best they could be to live the rest of eternity in heavenly peace. So when the bible says, our God is a giving God, I believe it.
My three little sentences have brought me more comfort over the years than you can know. It has enabled me to explain my beliefs to my kids in a way that they can understand and I think it has brought them comfort as well. I encourage them to go on their way in this thing we call life and to discover their own answers, but for now at least, they can think of our loved ones as being on some great adventure with God at his side and know that someday we will all meet up again in heaven.
I’m no genius, but that’s what I think

Thursday, November 11, 2010

How to retire Succesfully???

HOW TO RETIRE SUCCESSFULLY

Today's workers must cover more of the costs themselves. But they have new tools for the job


Lately, we are working harder and longer--and surrendering more in taxes--yet are still lamenting that we'll never retire as comfortably as our parents. With fewer workers supporting a larger cohort of elderly dependents, Social Security is unsustainable, and Medicare costs are out of control. Despite a lifetime of paying for both, most of us are unlikely to receive our full share of either. Guaranteed pensions and retiree medical coverage are becoming obsolete. Personal savings are at a record low. The message is constant and comes from all corners--economists, investment advisers, politicians, and the press: ''Retirement is a luxury only the rich can afford.'' Meanwhile, the rest of us fret that we'll be spending our golden years flipping burgers at the golden arches.
But just because a guaranteed safety net no longer exists does not mean that we will free-fall into old age impoverished and infirm. A financially secure retirement is still within reach if you're willing to maximize the numerous savings and investment opportunities available, and adjust your expectations.
To be sure, today's workers must cover more of the cost of retirement themselves. But the baby-boom generation has several advantages that current retirees did not. Baby boomers have bigger incomes, greater pension entitlement, and higher net worth than their parents and grandparents did at comparable ages, according to the Employee Benefits Research Institute (EBRI) in Washington. For much of the past decade, many boomers have climbed aboard a raging bull on Wall Street, leaving many of them with far greater nest eggs than they expected. And employment rates are up for women, thus boosting their pension coverage, suggests William G. Gale in a report for the Brookings Institution.
Moreover, today's employees have multiple sources of retirement income. Individual retirement accounts (IRAs), a variety of stock-ownership programs, and insurance provide benefits unavailable to workers of yesteryear. Folks are investing smarter and earlier. Retirement planning no longer takes place in the employee cafeteria at age 64, says Jerry Potts, marketing director for MFS Funds in Boston. ''Now, companies are offering much younger employees a wide range of educational and financial-planning services.''
EMPTY PIGGY BANKS. Even though baby boomers are more knowledgeable about saving and investing and can use a wide array of vehicles to manage their assets, the personal savings rate has declined from more than 7% throughout the 1960s to just under 5% in 1996. But the savings crisis may be overstated. In a study for Merrill Lynch & Co., Stanford University economist Douglas B. Bernheim found that excluding the equity in their houses, baby boomers were saving only about one-third of what they will need in retirement. Yet when housing wealth is included, more than two-thirds of boomers likely will be able to maintain their current standard of living in retirement.
What's more, when you add in the money invested in equities, the situation seems even less dire. Since the personal savings rate measures only the share of income not spent, it does not give a completely accurate picture of Americans' financial well-being. It ignores the paper profits that employees hold in stocks and stock mutual funds and the ultimately positive effect that capital-gains buildup has had upon many people's net worth. ''You have a situation where workers are saving more than ever from their perspective, yet the savings rate is low,'' says EBRI President Dallas L. Salisbury.
Similarly, the oft-predicted collapse of Social Security is not quite as cut and dried--nor as catastrophic--as it appears. According to economic forecasts, the Social Security trust fund will be exhausted by 2029 unless benefits are reduced or taxes increased. Yet this shortfall is predicated on assumptions of slower economic growth than the U.S. has enjoyed for the past several years. In contrast, higher productivity resulting from efficient use of information technology means greater wealth, which should make funding Social Security easier.
Doomsayers contend that even an exceptionally strong economy will not be enough to offset the anticipated age wave. But in fact, the greatest challenge facing Social Security is not the number of older people but the cost and level of their medical care, says Sandra L. Reynolds, an assistant professor of gerontology at the University of South Florida in Tampa.
ADDED BENEFITS. Since few employers offer retirees medical insurance, most rely on Medicare, the taxpayer-funded insurance program for the elderly and disabled. By the time today's workers retire, the financially troubled Medicare system will look very different. Not only is the eligibility age likely to be raised to 67, but richer seniors may also ultimately pay higher premiums.
The good news is, future retirees may actually receive more benefits--such as coverage for prescription drugs, vision and hearing tests--for less money by joining one of the growing number of Medicare health maintenance organizations (HMOs). Their signing-on will also negate the expense of supplementary Medigap insurance policies, which cover most of the hefty fees Medicare won't. Enrollment will be optional, and participants maintain the right to switch back on a monthly basis into the traditional fee-for-service Medicare system if dissatisfied. Since these HMOs are still relatively new, patients may not be able to pick a doctor they like, and facilities may be limited. But as competition intensifies, Medicare HMOs will develop stronger national networks with improved coverage and service, figures Henry S. Moyer, a partner at the employee-benefits consulting firm of Hirschfeld, Stern, Moyer & Ross in New York.
With life expectancies on the rise, however, the biggest threat to retirement savings will be the cost of long-term care. Since Medicare offers only limited nursing-home coverage, more and more young employees are planning ahead and buying long-term-care insurance policies on their own or through the handful of employers--such as IBM, Alamo Car Rental, and Wells Fargo--that offer a group plan.
Until recently, these policies, which foot the bill for a variety of services ranging from home health care to nursing homes, were expensive and often underwritten by financially troubled insurers. ''Today, policies are more affordable and available from solvent companies [such as Travelers, UNUM, and John Hancock],'' says Potts of MFS. As of this year, employers and individual buyers may be able to deduct some or all of long-term-care premiums and expenses from their federal income taxes. The tax break will dramatically increase the number of companies that offer coverage, predicts William Steinberg, a consultant at Hirschfeld, Stern, Moyer & Ross. In the meantime, insurers are coming up with novel options for people who do not have access to a group long-term-care insurance plan. For example, a long-term disability policy from UNUM converts to long-term-care insurance once the policyholder enters retirement. But what makes the insurance additionally appealing is that you won't need to provide evidence of insurability, and the policy is portable if you change jobs.
OLDEN DAYS. In spite of an abundance of new employee benefits and more flexible and affordable insurance coverage, many Americans still pine for the way things used to be. But they miss the point. Even given the possibility that Social Security and Medicare benefits will be reduced and that individual contributions will be increased, the government's role in retirement is overemphasized. ''Americans fixate on Social Security's stability, and they forget that it was never intended to be the sole source of retirement income,'' says Neal E. Cutler, professor of financial gerontology at Widener University in Chester, Pa. Even so, 6 out of 10 current retirees use it as such. ''Part of the problem is that people mistakenly assume that Social Security provides an adequate retirement income,'' says EBRI's Salisbury. ''The reality is, it never did.''
Another fallacy is this: Because fewer folks have access to defined benefit plans--which guarantee a fixed annuity for life--their chances of retiring comfortably will be reduced. Yet prior to the passage of the Employee Retirement Income Security Act (ERISA) in 1974, workers who left a company before age 65--regardless of their years of service--often forfeited their pension entirely. As a result, 20 years ago only 50% of defined-benefit-plan participants actually received any money, Salisbury says. Today, thanks to reduced vesting requirements and pension portability, that number has climbed to 85%.
Even if the only retirement plan that your company offers is a defined-contribution or 401(k) plan, you may be better off than you think. Unlike traditional pensions, which pay investors a fixed return regardless of market performance, defined-contribution plans let you control the risk and reward, says Ward Armstrong, president of American Express Retirement Services in Minneapolis.
Encouraged by strong stock market performance, employees of all ages are shifting more of their retirement-plan assets into equities, says Mary Rudie Barnaby, president of the National Defined Contribution Council, an association of 401(k) plan providers. In the 401(k) plans administered by American Express, there has been a dramatic shift toward stocks: In 1987, 65% of assets were allocated to fixed income and 35% to equity. Ten years later, that ratio has been reversed. Today's longer life expectancies even challenge the wisdom of shifting all your assets into bonds near retirement. Financial advisers are recommending that 60- to 70-year-old investors allocate as much as 25% to equities, says David J. Castellani, senior vice-president at CIGNA Retirement & Investment Services in Hartford.
CATCH-UP. An extended bull market has increased assets in 401(k) plans--at a compounded annual rate of 18% over the past decade--to around $810 billion, according to Access Research Inc. in Windsor, Conn. Participation among employees who were eligible to contribute to their company's 401(k) plan rose from 64% in 1986 to 78% in 1996, Access reports. Those numbers are likely to grow if a proposal in Congress becomes law, allowing workers who take extended leave due to illness or childbirth to make catch-up contributions to their retirement plan.
Future retirees will also benefit from stock ownership incentives such as stock option and employee stock ownership plans (ESOPs). Today, there are an estimated 10,000 ESOPs, a fivefold increase in the past 20 years, reports the ESOP Assn. in Washington. ''Giving employees a few hundred shares of stock here and there over time adds up to a significant cash benefit,'' says Castellani. Just ask employees at Lowe's Cos., a large chain of home-improvement centers in North Wilkesboro, N.C. The company makes additional contributions of up to 17% of employees' gross income in Lowe's stock to their employee stock ownership accounts. Many lower-level employees--including janitors--have retired with six-figure accounts, says CEO Bob Tillman.
Indeed, preparing for a comfortable and financially secure retirement can be a full-time job. Whether you want to loll by the pool at your condo in Boca Raton, Fla., or cruise to Branson, Mo., in an RV, getting on the right roa to retirement isn't as daunting as it once appeared. With more investment options and benefits than ever befored, and a progress report just a mouse-click away,
By Kerry Capell in New York

Meaning of Success

The Real Meaning of Success

Countless people have achieved the goals they set out for themselves only to find that they feel unhappy inside more often than they thought possible. They wonder if there is supposed to be more to life than all those things, or if they just missed a secret somewhere along the line.
All over the world, and particularly in the United States, people identify the concept of success with having a lot of money, achieving fame, having a good career, finding your true love, raising a family, owning your own home, possessing all the things you ever wanted, being able to retire, and things like that. But countless people have achieved these goals only to find themselves feeling unhappy inside more often than they thought possible. They wonder if there is supposed to be more to life than all those things, or if they just missed a secret somewhere along the line.

I would begin by equating real success with undisturbed peace of mind. I would follow that up by equating true peace of mind with happiness because if you've ever been really peaceful for a significant period of time, you know how happy you feel inside when you're in that state. Nobody on earth is ever peaceful 100% of the time, but truly successful people know how to return themselves to a state of peace relatively quickly whenever they become disturbed. This ability transcends all types of possessions and achievements, and it does not depend on anything for its continuing existence.

One problem with money, fame, careers, families, and possessions in general is that it's entirely possible to lose them after you've gotten them, and losing these kinds of things after achieving them can be a very painful experience. Another problem is that it's also entirely possible to get something you've always wanted and then find out after some time passes that it really isn't doing what you thought it would do for you. But for the person who has achieved true peace of mind and knows how to return to it when disturbances occur (and that's the real key to it all), nothing on earth can take that skill away.

Western religions preach to us that the most important thing in life is having a "one on one" relationship with God, and there's something to be said for that concept because among other things, we're told that God is Peace. Jesus Christ preached, "Peace on Earth to men of good will". Albert Einstein, who was arguably the most brilliant human being ever born on Earth had a very strong belief in a peaceful God, and he also understood that his Theory of Relativity strongly implied the existence of an infinite power that exists somewhere beyond the speed of light and outside our three dimensional universe. Jesus was in a state of constant peace. He only lost it one time, and that was because the money changers in the temple of his religion were so blasted blasphemous that a bit of righteous anger was definitely appropriate. There's really nothing more offensive to God than people who break God's laws in the name of God.

Eastern religions teach that the most important thing is peace of mind. Buddhists aren't even sure that there is a God that's worth defining, but they do believe that peace of mind is a pretty good substitute definition. The Yogis say that to know God, you have to become God, and the general path leading to that goal is achieving peace of mind that cannot be disturbed. But there's a great story about a yogi who meditated for many years in a cave in order to become peaceful all the time. After he felt that he had achieved that state, he came out of his cave so that he could spread the good word. Right away he encountered a woman and he began to tell her of his experience. The woman couldn't grasp his concept right away so she said, "You seem to be very peaceful, yogi. Is that true?" Of course, he said "yes". Then she said, "Come on, yogi, are you REALLY peaceful?" He said, "I just told you that I'm peaceful." She said, "But are you really peaceful all the time?" He replied, "Yes, all the time." But she kept on. "I don't believe you, yogi, nobody is peaceful ALL the time." The yogi blurted out, "Damn it woman! How can you be so stupid? Can't you see how peaceful I am?" I got it straight from Sri Swami Satchidananda Maharaj.

So with all that said, you're really successful if:
  • You're able to have somebody else dial your phone calls for you.
  • You have somebody else drive your own car for you.
  • You don't have to do your own laundries.
  • You're completely inaccessible.
  • You have Milton Berle living inside your brain.


And that last one is true because if you can't achieve constant peace of mind, you might as well be laughing about it all the time!

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

The 4 Wives.....

7 Steps of living at the speed of life

7 Steps to Living at the Speed of Life
by Jim M. Allen

Everywhere you turn today, people are in a constant rush: Hurry here! Hurry there! Free up an extra half-hour and you just might be able to squeeze one more task into your already overflowing schedule of things to do.
Unfortunately, too many of us these days mistake living fast for living well. They aren't the same things. Rather than spend your time rushing around not enjoying life, make the decision to do just the opposite. Choose to slow down.
Below I've listed 7 steps that will help you get started "gearing down" to a calmer, more enjoyable pace: your own, personal, speed of life.

1. Stop rushing

No matter how much you do or don't do, time passes by at a steady rate. Second by second, minute by minute. You can't change that. So accept it and pace yourself.

2. Stop being rushed

Of course, you'll need to spend some time telling the people around you that you're not going to rush anymore, but it's worth it. Take a stand: don't let others force you into fast forward mode.

3. Do less

It's natural for you to start rushing about when your list of activities is jam-packed. If you really want to slow down, reduce your commitments --it's okay to say "No" when people ask for your help and/or participation-- and free up some "spare" time.

4. Do nothing

Better yet, take #3 even further. Do less than less.... do nothing! Plan "nothing days". These are days when you have absolutely nothing that must be done -- days when anything you choose to do is the right thing to do.

5. Do one thing at a time

If you can't bring yourself to doing less (or nothing), then slow down by simply doing one thing at a time. You'll focus more on each task you do (and you'll probably complete it faster, too).

6. Do things now

Not everything, just the stuff that really must be done today. Pay your bills when they arrive, not the day they're due. Take out the trash when the trash is full, not just on the day the garbage truck comes by.

7. Do something for someone else

Spend an hour each week helping your favorite charity . You'll quickly see how valuable time really is and you'll feel great by focusing on helping others. _____